A lot of you know Sharon Silver, who has been a reader and commenter here for years, and who I sometimes ask to either write a post or to comment on a question. She's a speaker and an actual expert (as opposed to, say, me) on child emotional development.
She's also the best resource I've found on parenting kids who are 2 and 3 and 4 years old. You know, that age range in which you've read Haim Ginott and Faber and Mazlisch and Lawrence Cohen, and you can feel the connect between those theories and how you want to be parenting your child, but the kid is just simply too young to have the whole "talk about it" method work. Especially when it's stuff like throwing food, throwing tantrums, throwing your keys into the garbage can at a big-box retailer I no longer go to, etc. So you feel like there's this parent you *could* be, but that doesn't connect with the frustrated, white-knuckling parent you often *are* with a kid that age.
Sharon has concrete actual ideas about what to say, how to say it, and what to do to change your interactions with your kids at that age into positive ones. She emphasizes strengthening your relationship and providing firm boundaries.
SHE WROTE A BOOK!
It's called Stop Reacting and Start Responding: 108 Ways to Discipline Consciously and Become the Parent You Want To Be, which sums it all up nicely.
I've only read the first 10 pages because I've been swamped at work, so a full review is forthcoming, but I love what I've read so far. It's just Sharon: no BS, and she assumes you're a good parent who just needs some concrete techniques that work. It's written in short sections that cover specific topics, so you don't have to read the whole thing before you can start using it.
It's a perfect gift for yourself or for anyone else you know who has or will have a preschooler. So please go over to her new book site at www.reactrespond.com and buy a hard copy (US$12.95--cheap!) or the E-book (US$9.95--super-cheap!) and/or congratulate her.
I'll read the whole thing while I'm at my parents' this weekend, so I'll put up a full review. And you might even get an extra bonus review from my mother. Heh.
I am just thrilled that Sharon has a book out after all of the caring, thoughtful work she's been doing for parents for years. Yay!