It's 2009.
Time for you to start believing the truth about yourself.
That doesn't mean magical thinking. For instance, I'm not trying to convince myself that I'm actually a dynamic and joyful cleaner.
It does mean looking at those lies you've been telling yourself, and figuring out what the truth really is, and then acting on that.
Your past is gone, stuck in 2008. So here's the present and future.
I'll start: I'm a strong, smart, capable, powerful woman who makes good decisions and does whatever she decides to do.
Your turn.
I am strong enough to ask for help before I've dropped half the balls that were in the air.
I include ME in decisions about my future.
Posted by: hedra | January 02, 2009 at 10:10 AM
I have all the answers inside me. I have all the power I need inside me.
Posted by: sheSaid | January 02, 2009 at 10:14 AM
I deserve to take good care of myself: diet, exercise, sleep, hobbies. I want to be able to model the life I want my kids to lead.
It is not my job to make my husband happy.
Posted by: Dawn | January 02, 2009 at 10:59 AM
I deserve to enjoy life.
Asking for help is normal and okay. My world is filled with people who would be happy to help me if they just knew I need their help.
Posted by: amy | January 02, 2009 at 11:07 AM
oh, enu, I thought of you yesterday! I grew up in Maine, can't even imagine! brrrr!!
brava!!
Posted by: Lisa F. | January 02, 2009 at 12:17 PM
I am capable of walking through the changes in my life with grace. I am able to make changes I need in order to live a better life.
Posted by: Jennifer | January 02, 2009 at 12:19 PM
I will find a way to get some exercise.
I will stop eating so much sugar.
I will make myself go to bed before midnight every night.
I will work diligently on my dissertation and believe that I CAN do it.
I will let go of fear.
I will find time for me.
Posted by: navismom | January 02, 2009 at 12:21 PM
I am competent and capable in all areas of my life, even if I am not perfect in all of those areas, all the time.
In short, I am a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter, a good friend, a good cook and a good housekeeper. Maybe not "excellent," and maybe not good in everything all the time, but on balance, GOOD. And that's good enough. This year, I believe it.
Posted by: MrsHaley | January 02, 2009 at 01:29 PM
I don't have to explain my decisions to anyone.
I don't have to be so harsh on those who don't live up to my (unrealistic) expectations.
Posted by: professor mama | January 02, 2009 at 03:05 PM
I thought of another one:
I am a child of God and live as such.
Posted by: Jennifer | January 02, 2009 at 04:13 PM
One more for me:
I am a fun person that other people enjoy being around.
Posted by: finnsmom | January 02, 2009 at 04:24 PM
I can be both a good mother AND a good teacher. I can maintain my career and still take excellent care of my son and husband. I am still me even though I've had a baby. It's ok for me to say NO to things I don't want to do. And it's ok for me to eat a small York Peppermint Patty every single day! :)
Happy new year, everyone!
Posted by: Jen L. | January 02, 2009 at 04:36 PM
1. I can do it
2. Don't let fear paralyze me
3. I can forgive
4. I have choices
Posted by: cathlucey | January 02, 2009 at 05:35 PM
sudru made me think of mine.
I don't have a hard time being a mom and a professional, but I seem to be having a hard time being a "person" outside of those things.
My belief therefore is that I can be a mother, professional and a person. Perhaps a "mofesson". Yeah, I'll do that with grace and dignity (just like sudru).
I've been lacking the grace and dignity part in being a person to my friends these days. Time to snap out of it.
Posted by: Aaron | January 02, 2009 at 05:56 PM
I will treat this one body I've been granted with the respect and care it deserves, and be a role model of healthy habits for our babies.
Posted by: Nancy | January 02, 2009 at 07:46 PM
Looking forward into 2009 I need to be clear that I can't make my partner's depression go away. It's alright to be happy when he's not. I can make the right decisions around this to benefit our son.
Thanks Moxie for the opportunity to put this out there. Your site has been very important since the birth of our child two years ago, certainly contributed to whatever sanity I still possess!
Posted by: Mella | January 02, 2009 at 09:14 PM
I am serious most of the time, and I do have a wicked sense of humor. I am a very good wife, mother and daughter. I am afraid to take the next step in life, but I do have the strength to do it.
Posted by: kateydid | January 03, 2009 at 08:16 AM
My health is in my hands. No one else is going to lose the weight for me, or manage my asthma for me, or make me eat healthful meals. It might take a little longer out of my day, but ignoring my health is no longer a reasonable option if I want to continue to be an active mother and wife.
Posted by: wealhtheow | January 03, 2009 at 01:56 PM
I am powerful!
I can do ALL things through Him who gives me strength.
I am a capable, loving steward of my body, mind and spirit.
I find creative ways to invest in my professional self while raising babies full-time.
I accept my mother-in-law for who she is.
Posted by: Amanda Too | January 03, 2009 at 07:44 PM
I am creating my own life. The universe is not creating me.
Posted by: Amy | January 04, 2009 at 02:17 AM
Accepting the body I have doesn't mean approval. It just means that I have what I have. Once I accept the body I have and how I got it, I can move towards the (more healthy, thinner) body I want.
Posted by: Lindz | January 04, 2009 at 05:45 PM
The real me:
I am successful.
I am intelligent.
I have the power to create change in myself and my world.
I can manage my eccentricities and continue to be successful.
I can let go of seeking approval from others and find what I need by looking inside.
I can defend my boundaries.
I am very good at what I do and deserve the recognition I have received.
Posted by: Chaosgirl | January 04, 2009 at 06:53 PM
My replacement thought whenever the negative one tries to join me in 2009 is: when something is important to me, I overcome every obstacle.
Plus, I have developed a simple mantra for this year: Capable. Diligent. Productive.
I've written a lot more about how each of the words applies to my three main roles of mother, student and wife, but I shall avoid information overload here!
Posted by: Quadelle | January 04, 2009 at 09:33 PM
addendum:
I smile a lot.
its on my short list of things to practice!
Posted by: ramy | January 04, 2009 at 11:49 PM
I can accept and love people for who they are, and this doesn't mean I have to approve of or agree with everything they do. This includes myself.
I can be a good mother and wife and professional AND person. Worrying about how to pull this off will not make it any easier.
I am deserving of good things.
Posted by: Danielle | January 05, 2009 at 07:17 PM
I am beautiful and sexy, and deserving of the adoration my husband lavishes on me.
I am a patient, attentive mom and I can get through to my kids without yelling.
I am a talented artist and can find a way to make a living with my art.
Posted by: Joy | January 06, 2009 at 01:40 PM
I deserve to be happy and loved.
I cannot change other people, I can only change how I react to them.
Refusing to interact with people who only provoke anger or annoyance, beyond the bounds of politeness is a good and valid mental health strategy and does not make me a bad person.
In conjuction with the 2 statements above: I dumped my ex partner for the same reasons that I cannot stay more than aquaintances with him. I will stop thinking and trying to make this change (therin lies the crazy rage.
Posted by: Mab | January 06, 2009 at 06:18 PM
You have to believe in yourself. That’s the secret of success.
Posted by: air jordan | November 04, 2010 at 02:02 AM
God closes one door while opens another one for you！
Posted by: Ugg Boots | November 04, 2010 at 11:18 PM