Ooh--my first Philosophical Question of the Week from a reader. Joyanna poses the question:
"My husband and I are about to go on a week's vacation without our 3 kids ( ages 8, 6, and 20 mos.) from whom I've never been away for more than one night, three times, ever.
While I'm totally excited for the trip and totally confident they'll do fine with Grandma and Grandpa and Nanny Aunt for the week, I'm thinking a little about Worst Case Scenario, plane goes down, whatever, and that I'd like to write a letter for my kids to read Just In Case, and for them to refer to as they grow up. I wonder what your readers would include in such a letter... what would be your best advice to your children if you knew they wouldn't have you around as they grew up... what would you leave them with?"
That's a tough one. On the one hand, it would be tempting to lay it all out there: "I loved you more than I ever thought I could love anyone, and becoming your mother turned me into a real person." But is that too much to lay on a kid? I don't know. Maybe something like "My greatest joy was being with you and watching you become who you are."
As to advice? Hmmm. "God is real. Trust your instincts. Look for the helpers." That might cover it for me.
This last weekend while we were on vacation in a rural area, I realized how much I hope my kids grow up with a love for being out in nature (tough to do in NYC). But I don't know if that can be effectively conveyed in a letter.
What do you guys think?