After I posted that my younger son went into underpants on my birthday, I got four emails from people asking how I set the stage for him to be able to make his own decision.
I don't actually know. I really really thought he'd be so different from his brother, who was doing all the potty-training stuff (always went on his own inside the house) but still wore a diaper when we went out. But, go figure, they both ended up doing the same thing, which was telling me at the last second that they weren't going to wear a diaper that day.
I honestly don't think it's anything I did, but rather that they're potty-training anomalies.
Now, if you'd asked me that question 3 years ago, I'd have said that I hopped on my oldest son's interested as soon as he expressed them (getting him a potty when he was 16 months, for instance, and stopping to watch every dog on the street do his business). But my younger son wasn't interested in underpants until I bought them, and, in fact, told me several times that he was going to wear a diaper "fow-evew, mom-mom."
Maybe it was because I took his claims seriously, while still giving him an out. Maybe it was all the talk about "big boys wear underpants."Maybe it was seeing his friend O wearing underpants and peeing in the potty.
At this point I have the luxury of not caring, because he even switched into underpants at night and has been getting up to pee on his own for three nights running.
But I'm betting there are some of you who have systematized ways of setting a relaxed-but-motivating environment for your kids to get out of diapers. I've said it before, but I think it's far easier to push a kid to train when they're closer to two than to three. By the time they turn three, they really dig in their heels. So bear that in mind, that when they're younger they may be less physically ready, but when they're older it's less about technique and more about mind games.
Any comments about creating the right environment for an older kid to decide to make the leap?